Lots of good advice, but let's keep the boarding last trick a secret, and relax quietly while everyone else stresses about getting on board the aluminum tube. In this case, the benefit is destroyed if shared.
Love these so much! Thank you for sharing!! You know how there are so few people you feel so much warmth from and towards instantly and it’s a surprise for me how it is for a stranger i know only via social media, but it is for you, Mari. Thank you for being your authentic self, from one HSP to another. Sending you good vibes ✨
Mari- I was just going to say that you write like you’re talking to a friend, so glad to learn you write like you’re talking to your mom (maybe also a friend!). I find your writing to be the most refreshing writing I read every month.
I agree with you about cards !
My mom writes on her calendar every year for every SINGLE person who she knows who has lost a loved one and sends them love for every special day. I learned everything I know about being there for a grieving person year after year from her. She was a teacher and even kept the pictures of the decreased in her classroom and taught third graders compassion and prayer for their families.
I love every one of these. I love that you are fluent in Spanish and I love what you said about going with the wave. About writing everything down. About children who are born healthy or not healthy.
I am learning how to feel “okayish” in a world where people aren’t used to you having a baby with some serious conditions. I just want every person alive to know how amazing my little Sammy is. I’ve made that my mission. He’s such a miracle. Maybe I’ll connect with you on your personal work you do with other writers because I’m trying to figure out how to make space to say what I am learning from this experience with my baby the last year. It’s totally changed my life. Some days I feel so free because I’ve witnessed something and am witnessing something magical. Some days I feel so outside myself I want to scream. Ah, life…
This was such a refreshing read thank you, it felt like drinking a fresh mango passionfruit juice with mint garnish in the summertime!
If you feel inclined, I would love to hear you say more about #98 and what you learned from your hairdresser. I'm 13 weeks and honestly shocked at the number of people who think it's normal to ask 'are you hoping for a girl or a boy'... I find it such a weird and intrusive question. Even if I did have a preference (I don't), not sure why such personal wishes of my heart would be any business of a random acquaintance or distant relative?!
I had thought that by answering 'a healthy baby' I was giving more of a 'mind your own business' and reminder that my baby's genitals aren't important, the fact that they arrive here safely is. When pregnant the fears about losing this little being can be overwhelming, for women who have suffered pregnancy loss or infertility even more so. But I do understand the implication that 'healthy baby' has - that a baby with health issues is somehow less worthy or wanted, ignoring their humanity and contribution. Perhaps it's more respectful and direct for me to just say 'I'm hoping for a live birth'.. bound to shut them up ;)
Wow. You seem like such a thoughtful and caring person, it was so lovely to read you! I'm also so curious about all your experiences and feel like you've lived at least 7 lives!
Lots of good advice, but let's keep the boarding last trick a secret, and relax quietly while everyone else stresses about getting on board the aluminum tube. In this case, the benefit is destroyed if shared.
Love these so much! Thank you for sharing!! You know how there are so few people you feel so much warmth from and towards instantly and it’s a surprise for me how it is for a stranger i know only via social media, but it is for you, Mari. Thank you for being your authentic self, from one HSP to another. Sending you good vibes ✨
As for the baby question, gender-neutrality aside, another good answer to, "Do you want a boy or a girl?" can be, "Yes, we do!"
Mari- I was just going to say that you write like you’re talking to a friend, so glad to learn you write like you’re talking to your mom (maybe also a friend!). I find your writing to be the most refreshing writing I read every month.
I agree with you about cards !
My mom writes on her calendar every year for every SINGLE person who she knows who has lost a loved one and sends them love for every special day. I learned everything I know about being there for a grieving person year after year from her. She was a teacher and even kept the pictures of the decreased in her classroom and taught third graders compassion and prayer for their families.
I love every one of these. I love that you are fluent in Spanish and I love what you said about going with the wave. About writing everything down. About children who are born healthy or not healthy.
I am learning how to feel “okayish” in a world where people aren’t used to you having a baby with some serious conditions. I just want every person alive to know how amazing my little Sammy is. I’ve made that my mission. He’s such a miracle. Maybe I’ll connect with you on your personal work you do with other writers because I’m trying to figure out how to make space to say what I am learning from this experience with my baby the last year. It’s totally changed my life. Some days I feel so free because I’ve witnessed something and am witnessing something magical. Some days I feel so outside myself I want to scream. Ah, life…
Much love to you.
For some reason I’m missing 51-63. I’d love to see them because the others are so wonderful!
This was such a refreshing read thank you, it felt like drinking a fresh mango passionfruit juice with mint garnish in the summertime!
If you feel inclined, I would love to hear you say more about #98 and what you learned from your hairdresser. I'm 13 weeks and honestly shocked at the number of people who think it's normal to ask 'are you hoping for a girl or a boy'... I find it such a weird and intrusive question. Even if I did have a preference (I don't), not sure why such personal wishes of my heart would be any business of a random acquaintance or distant relative?!
I had thought that by answering 'a healthy baby' I was giving more of a 'mind your own business' and reminder that my baby's genitals aren't important, the fact that they arrive here safely is. When pregnant the fears about losing this little being can be overwhelming, for women who have suffered pregnancy loss or infertility even more so. But I do understand the implication that 'healthy baby' has - that a baby with health issues is somehow less worthy or wanted, ignoring their humanity and contribution. Perhaps it's more respectful and direct for me to just say 'I'm hoping for a live birth'.. bound to shut them up ;)
It’s my birthday today and this was such a gift to read. Thank you!
Thank for such a thought provoking and authentic list. I will re-read it regularly.
I really loved this, especially all you’re saying about cards. They’re so nice to receive but I never think to send them. You’ve inspired me!
This was delightful! And I loved the idea of loving an animal that can't give you exactly what you want and the lessons it teaches you. <3
I had the best time reading this. Thank you for the sunshine!
These are rich and wonderful and oh so helpful/insightful. Thank you for taking time to beautifully curate and share these meaningful thoughts. 💛🧡❤️
Loved this whole post! It reminded me a little of Nora Ephron's "things I'll miss."
#11 was a specific favorite. I often feel self-conscious for no reason whatsoever, but maybe people are perceiving me for positive reasons - lol.
What a well lived and loved life. Thank you for always sharing your wisdom with us Mari. 🫶🏽
Wow. You seem like such a thoughtful and caring person, it was so lovely to read you! I'm also so curious about all your experiences and feel like you've lived at least 7 lives!
I really enjoyed your article.