I would like to add, it’s much, much easier to hear your intuition, or for it to set you down for a good talking to, when you’re not avoiding life in an endless scroll. (Ask me how I know...) I’ve not always enjoyed the direct line my intuition now has after reclaiming my time and mind back from socials. Self awareness and reflection can be downright exhausting. But it’s yet to steer me wrong.
‘And then I remind my intuition that I live in a society dominated by the masculine demand for explanation based on external facts, rather than the feminine value of mystery fueled by inner wisdom.’ Snaps, sis. Too many people asking why, while forgetting what. Thank you. As a fellow follower of the fallacy of arrival and the glorious rush of quitting -- thank you.
As someone who has been struggling with a lot of feelings lately, where my intuition has been all over the place, this was really helpful and grounding. Thank you <3
Mari, I'm rereading "My Inner Sky" and it is the book I needed at this moment of my life.
I recently moved halfway across the country for a new job as a personal assistant. The novelty has officially worn off this month and while I still gasp when I drive beneath palm trees, the job itself is now a bore. I feel like I'm trying to become talented in areas I have no business trying to become talented in. I'm NOT good at keeping files or QuickBooks...
..but I am good at writing social media captions and gauging my employer's emotional state. So, there are portions of the job I can easily excel in. I'm so creative, though, and I haven't found a place to work that cultivates that area of my soul. So, I've often cultivated it on my own instead, through hosting dinner parties and interviewing people on my blog. I'm starting to wonder, though, if all the time I spent doing those things was sort of a waste? I thought I was painting my inner sky a new color by hosting events and starting a blog, but what if I was just wasting my precious twenties?
It felt like success to me, though. So, that's something, right? Success is one of the few things that's in the eye of the beholder, I think. That and beauty...
I don't foresee being at this job for very long, but I do think moving was a good idea. I want a big life - not a small one! - and your writing is helping to remind me of that. I don't know when I'll quit or where I'll go when I do, but I've taken a step towards a bigger life, a more expansive inner sky.
Thanks for sharing your journey...and for reading this comment that's basically a novella.
Thank you for sharing your permission to quit. I want to leave my job. But what to do next? I’m 50. Feel this year is a turning point but unsure which way to turn...
Oh Mari, thank you for this!!! I've been feeling so stuck as of late. Thank you for this guidance and powerful message. It's amazing how the universe tells you exactly what you need to hear. I want to 'enjoy the process of becoming' who I'm meant to be but it's hard to find the path of my True North sometimes. I want to be at peace with my reflection. I'm tapping on my sternum asking my holy intention for the wisdom I seek. Fingers crossed. xx
Perfect timing as always, thank you Mari. And, yes, feminine intuition is supremely underrated. I rarely quit capriciously--and by that I mean I have a thick skin of tolerance and typically need an airtight backup or alternative plan--but when those intuition hairs start to prickle, it’s lights out and I’m gone. Life falls back into place not necessarily by some divine intervention (although I’m the first one to ask and thank the Universe for pathways)... life falls back into place because we have the full free will to make it so. By releasing ourselves from the shackles of guilt or regret, we allow opportunity to envelope our time instead. To conclude, I’m triple-underlining this: “Relationships don’t have to be hard. A job doesn’t have to erode your soul. A commitment doesn’t have to take everything from you. Even if any of these are ‘okay,’ your soul will tug on your sternum when it knows there’s something easier, or more aligned, or more life-giving for you.” A thousand times, yes.
Mari! I was listening to this song this morning AND ‘listen more to my divine femine instinct’ was my NYE resolution. Synced! The mischievous universe is at work. Always inspired by you. Your writing is 🧑🍳 💋 Profound, playful, an utter delight! FIVE STARS xx Encore! Encoure!
Wow the timing of this was so beautifully perfect - as I’ve been gently panicking & trying to discern whether to move into a certain house in my city... the commitment is strangely hard this time around (I loved my last home & lived there for 4 years) but maybe this is an open door for a lovely year and doesn’t need to be a huge decision. Thank you, Mari, as always 🦋
I am a chronic over-committed who is so often looking for a way out while I am in whatever situation I find myself in. It’s exasperating. But oh boy do I remember the first time I quit something... I grew up being told « you need to finish what you start » and still to this day, I struggle with quitting. But at 23, I quit acting school after years and years of nursing this dream of « making it » in this world, hours of theatre classes and a freaking bachelor degree, I decided no. I don’t want to do this. It got too hard, painful. The relief when I finally quit was unbelievable. Now, I think that I might want to start again... but differently. Maybe just for fun (what is that?). So those things we held once so dear sometimes come back around to find us... and they find us in a different space, able to welcome them or not.
I was also thinking while reading your essay about the value - or not - of effort and difficulty. Worthwhile endeavours and relationships can require a certain level of difficulty and maybe even some sacrifices. Or maybe it’s effort that is needed, not difficulty. I don’t always believe that if it’s easy, it’s right. But sometimes, it’s just too damn hard. It’s forced and unnatural. Difficult. I don’t know. I have such a high level of tolerance for pain and discomfort that I stay in difficult situations far longer than I should. I have decided this year to learn how to listen to my intuition. It’s certainly a process. But as the song (https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=bdiHyBAtPMQ) says: « It gets easier but it never gets easy. »
I’m not a person who looks for signs from the universe, but boy did this newsletter arrive at the right time. I’ve been struggling to leave a good job that I’ve had for a long time, because it’s no longer right for me. “You can leave a job that someone else would want, because you don’t want it” is the permission I didn’t know I needed.
One thing I’d add, as I currently recover from a period of burnout that had me almost convinced to shut down my business of 15 years: my mind often tries to convince me that there are only two choices, such as stay or quit. The reality is often much more complex, with many different ways to approach the thing that is bothering me.
This, is exactly what we don’t talk about often. I am 23 and I feel the opposite to how you felt at 23. New beginnings are scary for me. I tend to over commit to things sometimes because I find it hard to decide ‘exactly’ what to quit out of a thousand things I do everyday. It does get hard, but a little bit of self reflection always makes me realise that sometimes, things don’t end up making us feel fulfilled like they used to before. It’s hard to digest this fact, but taking a leap of faith and letting go can actually be quite freeing.
I would like to add, it’s much, much easier to hear your intuition, or for it to set you down for a good talking to, when you’re not avoiding life in an endless scroll. (Ask me how I know...) I’ve not always enjoyed the direct line my intuition now has after reclaiming my time and mind back from socials. Self awareness and reflection can be downright exhausting. But it’s yet to steer me wrong.
‘And then I remind my intuition that I live in a society dominated by the masculine demand for explanation based on external facts, rather than the feminine value of mystery fueled by inner wisdom.’ Snaps, sis. Too many people asking why, while forgetting what. Thank you. As a fellow follower of the fallacy of arrival and the glorious rush of quitting -- thank you.
As someone who has been struggling with a lot of feelings lately, where my intuition has been all over the place, this was really helpful and grounding. Thank you <3
Mari, I'm rereading "My Inner Sky" and it is the book I needed at this moment of my life.
I recently moved halfway across the country for a new job as a personal assistant. The novelty has officially worn off this month and while I still gasp when I drive beneath palm trees, the job itself is now a bore. I feel like I'm trying to become talented in areas I have no business trying to become talented in. I'm NOT good at keeping files or QuickBooks...
..but I am good at writing social media captions and gauging my employer's emotional state. So, there are portions of the job I can easily excel in. I'm so creative, though, and I haven't found a place to work that cultivates that area of my soul. So, I've often cultivated it on my own instead, through hosting dinner parties and interviewing people on my blog. I'm starting to wonder, though, if all the time I spent doing those things was sort of a waste? I thought I was painting my inner sky a new color by hosting events and starting a blog, but what if I was just wasting my precious twenties?
It felt like success to me, though. So, that's something, right? Success is one of the few things that's in the eye of the beholder, I think. That and beauty...
I don't foresee being at this job for very long, but I do think moving was a good idea. I want a big life - not a small one! - and your writing is helping to remind me of that. I don't know when I'll quit or where I'll go when I do, but I've taken a step towards a bigger life, a more expansive inner sky.
Thanks for sharing your journey...and for reading this comment that's basically a novella.
Much needed nudges for much waited answers. Such love and warmth in these words.❤️
Thank you for sharing your permission to quit. I want to leave my job. But what to do next? I’m 50. Feel this year is a turning point but unsure which way to turn...
Oh Mari, thank you for this!!! I've been feeling so stuck as of late. Thank you for this guidance and powerful message. It's amazing how the universe tells you exactly what you need to hear. I want to 'enjoy the process of becoming' who I'm meant to be but it's hard to find the path of my True North sometimes. I want to be at peace with my reflection. I'm tapping on my sternum asking my holy intention for the wisdom I seek. Fingers crossed. xx
Perfect timing as always, thank you Mari. And, yes, feminine intuition is supremely underrated. I rarely quit capriciously--and by that I mean I have a thick skin of tolerance and typically need an airtight backup or alternative plan--but when those intuition hairs start to prickle, it’s lights out and I’m gone. Life falls back into place not necessarily by some divine intervention (although I’m the first one to ask and thank the Universe for pathways)... life falls back into place because we have the full free will to make it so. By releasing ourselves from the shackles of guilt or regret, we allow opportunity to envelope our time instead. To conclude, I’m triple-underlining this: “Relationships don’t have to be hard. A job doesn’t have to erode your soul. A commitment doesn’t have to take everything from you. Even if any of these are ‘okay,’ your soul will tug on your sternum when it knows there’s something easier, or more aligned, or more life-giving for you.” A thousand times, yes.
Mari! I was listening to this song this morning AND ‘listen more to my divine femine instinct’ was my NYE resolution. Synced! The mischievous universe is at work. Always inspired by you. Your writing is 🧑🍳 💋 Profound, playful, an utter delight! FIVE STARS xx Encore! Encoure!
This was such a beautiful read.. I'm glad I read this first thing in the morning ❤️🌼
Wow the timing of this was so beautifully perfect - as I’ve been gently panicking & trying to discern whether to move into a certain house in my city... the commitment is strangely hard this time around (I loved my last home & lived there for 4 years) but maybe this is an open door for a lovely year and doesn’t need to be a huge decision. Thank you, Mari, as always 🦋
Helvetica! The horror! 😱
I am a chronic over-committed who is so often looking for a way out while I am in whatever situation I find myself in. It’s exasperating. But oh boy do I remember the first time I quit something... I grew up being told « you need to finish what you start » and still to this day, I struggle with quitting. But at 23, I quit acting school after years and years of nursing this dream of « making it » in this world, hours of theatre classes and a freaking bachelor degree, I decided no. I don’t want to do this. It got too hard, painful. The relief when I finally quit was unbelievable. Now, I think that I might want to start again... but differently. Maybe just for fun (what is that?). So those things we held once so dear sometimes come back around to find us... and they find us in a different space, able to welcome them or not.
I was also thinking while reading your essay about the value - or not - of effort and difficulty. Worthwhile endeavours and relationships can require a certain level of difficulty and maybe even some sacrifices. Or maybe it’s effort that is needed, not difficulty. I don’t always believe that if it’s easy, it’s right. But sometimes, it’s just too damn hard. It’s forced and unnatural. Difficult. I don’t know. I have such a high level of tolerance for pain and discomfort that I stay in difficult situations far longer than I should. I have decided this year to learn how to listen to my intuition. It’s certainly a process. But as the song (https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=bdiHyBAtPMQ) says: « It gets easier but it never gets easy. »
I’m not a person who looks for signs from the universe, but boy did this newsletter arrive at the right time. I’ve been struggling to leave a good job that I’ve had for a long time, because it’s no longer right for me. “You can leave a job that someone else would want, because you don’t want it” is the permission I didn’t know I needed.
I love thinking about intuition in this way!
One thing I’d add, as I currently recover from a period of burnout that had me almost convinced to shut down my business of 15 years: my mind often tries to convince me that there are only two choices, such as stay or quit. The reality is often much more complex, with many different ways to approach the thing that is bothering me.
Those words are answering so smoothly to the questions I had in mind the past months. Such a soothing read. Thank you !
This, is exactly what we don’t talk about often. I am 23 and I feel the opposite to how you felt at 23. New beginnings are scary for me. I tend to over commit to things sometimes because I find it hard to decide ‘exactly’ what to quit out of a thousand things I do everyday. It does get hard, but a little bit of self reflection always makes me realise that sometimes, things don’t end up making us feel fulfilled like they used to before. It’s hard to digest this fact, but taking a leap of faith and letting go can actually be quite freeing.